Weddingbee bios

I'm T. Sometimes Teresa, sometimes Terri, and my online identity is Tessabella. I'm 32 and currently unemployed. I've worked in both retail and banking. I love animals, camping, reading, movies, crafting, and trying new adventures! K is Ken, sometimes Kenny. He's 39 and works in manufacturing as a jack of all trades. He loves everything tech related, music, movies, Star Wars, camping, and animals. Together we love to camp, snuggle on the couch and watch movies, spend time on our little lake we live by, cook, and try new things. We are partners in crime and I can't imagine going through life with anyone else.

We are planning a simple, country-ish, vintage-ish wedding celebration September 12, 2009. We can't wait to be man and wife and celebrate with all our friends an family.

 

Backstory: In September of 2003 my brother married a wonderful woman, SIL AJ. In November of 2003, AJ lost her mom to cancer and in December of 2003, we lost our mother to a sudden heart attack. Fast forward to October 2007. My bro and SIL were having a birthday party for my two neices (whose birthdays are a week apart). I got a chance to sit and talk to SIL AJ's soon-to-be step mother, Aunt T. Soon after, I started hearing about Aunt T's nephew. What a nice guy he is and how he's looking for a nice girl. And if I go to the wedding, Aunt T and SIL AJ are going to introduce us. Unfortunatly, I had just started a new job in retail hell and couldn't get the day off to go to the wedding.

By Thanksgiving, the matchmakers were still scheming and planning on how they could get us together. SIL AJ asked if they could give him my email address. I said sure, why not. At that point, the guys I was dating were not the cream of the crop. So a few days after Thanksgiving, I get an email from K, Aunt T's nephew. Just a short, introductory email. So I email him back, your basic Hi nice to meet you kind of email. He emails me back saying he's busy but he will email me more later. So I'm thinking that this guy might actually be a decent date prospect! Of course, I'm keeping SIL AJ update and she in turn is keeping Aunt T up to date. Well, then weeks go by and I don't hear from him. Soon it's Christmas and SIL AJ is asking how things are going with K. So I tell her I haven't heard from him in weeks. So AJ and Aunt T must have talked again, and then Aunt T must have put a bug in K's ear because a few days later, I get another email from him. While I'm responding to K's email, SIL AJ sends me an email with K's phone number from Aunt T. These ladies really wanted us to get together! So K and I exchanged phone numbers (I didn't tell him I already had his!) and soon we made plans for our first date. For a week and a half later. He tells me he's going to send me a picture of him so I'll know who he is at the restaurant. The first picture he sends me is one of him on his motorcycle with his helmet on. He's a funny one. Soon, I get another picture, this time without the motorcycle helmet.

So a day or two before we are supposed to meet, a week has gone by and I hadn't heard from him. So I email him but think I'm not going to hear from him again. But he emails me back, saying he's looking forward to meeting me.

Since we lived almost an hour apart, we decided to meet at an Applebee's restaurant about half way between where we both live. Now, K is notorious for being late. Me, I'm always early. But he assured me he would be there on time. So I get there about 10 minutes early and wait for him right inside the doors of the restaurant. And I keep waiting. By 5 after 6 (when we were supposed to meet) I still hadn't seen anyone that looked like his picture. And I was getting nervouse because another guy came in that was about 30 years older than me, who looked like he was looking around for someone. I'm thinking, great-this guy didn't send me his real picture! Finally, a waitress comes up to me and asks if I'm meeting someone, I say yes and she tells me he's already at a table. Turns out, he got there really early because he was worried he would be late! Soon we are eating and talking and talking and talking. We ended up staying at the restaurant until after 10 pm  because we were talking so much. And neither one of us are big talkers. We both tend to be shy at first, so it was pretty big that we stuck around to talk that long.

Sadly, I don't really remember a whole lot of what we talked about. I remember talking about our families, the funny story about how his boat got stolen, and about his wild trip to Hawaii when he was younger. We must have also talked about hockey and how I had never been to a hockey game because on our second date, K took me to a hockey game. But mostly I remember how comfortable I was talking to him. And what a nice, good guy he was. As he walked me to my car, I remember thinking that I could really like this guy. We said goodbye without a hug or a kiss (no kiss until the third date!) but I knew I would definitly be seeing him again.

 

In summer of 2008, after only dating for about 5 or 6 months, my fiance, K, and I started talking about marriage, kids, and the future. As the summer went on, we started talking about it more seriously. So in September and October we visted a couple of jewelery stores. First we went to the mall to a chain store and got a rough idea of what I liked and some prices. Then about a month later, we visited our local small town jeweler, who does custom design work. I picked out a band design that I really liked and we talked about a few different stone choices. I wasn't exactly sure what stone or shape I wanted. I love sapphires and we also talked about our birthstone since our birthdays are both in December. If we went with a diamond, I really liked princess cut and didn't want anything big. I'd rather have a excellent quality diamond that was a little smaller than something big and of lesser quality. So K got some ideas about what I liked, what he liked, and what he could afford.

We started talking about when we would like to get married and had settled on getting married in late summer, early fall of 2009. We also talked and I told him that I wasn't completely sold on having an engagement ring and wouldn't mind not having one if it meant I got to have a really blingy wedding band. Soon it was December and everyone thought we would get engaged by Christmas at least. I think almost everyday either someone from our families, friends, or coworkers would ask when I was getting a ring. By New Years Eve, with no ring, I asked K if he still wanted to get married in 2009 because if he did, I needed to start planning, ring or no ring. So he gave me the ok to start looking into venues and I made plans with my bff to to go dress shopping. January 9th was our 1st anniversary of dating and when I didn't have a ring by then, everyone (including me) decided it wasn't going to happen anytime soon.

So I called some places to have the ceremony and reception, K and I talked about a date, and I found a dress (but didn't order it yet). I think the girl at the dress shop thought I was crazy because I didn't have a ring! By now, it's almost February. K and I were talking one evening and I said something about whether or not I could officially call him my fiance or if we were officially engaged. I started getting a little suspicious when he said not yet and changed the subject but then I kind of just forgot about it.

The morning of February 4 was a Wednesday. I was scheduled off work that day so I was kind of sleeping in but K's alarms goes off and he gets out of bed. I was drifting in and out of sleep, but the next thing I know, K comes back to bed and tells me he called off work. To spend the day with me. At the time, I was working at a department store and I worked most weekends and evenings so even thoug we lived together, we didn't see much of each other. At first, I was a tad annoyed because I had things to do! But I got over and was happy to spend the day with my favorite person. We had a lazy morning, had breakfast and coffee as we planned our day. We decided it would be a good day to go visit one of the potential reception locations with his parents and made plans to meet them at their house.

So as we are getting ready to leave, I'm putting on some jewelery and I jokingly tell him that I'm not going to wear any rings because everytime I do, his mom grabs my hand and asks if we're engaged yet (like we wouldn't tell them!). So he says, "Let's give her something to look at."  So I'm like "What???" He tells me nevermind and starts acting really weird. So I go put my shoes and coat on and I start getting irritated with him because he's dawdling. Seriously, it takes him longer then me to get ready and he's a pretty low maintenance guy! Finally he comes out of the bedroom, still acting goofy. I asked him what was wrong and he just said nothing, but still was acting very goofy. I'm really starting to get irritated at that point and I say "Are we leaving soon or what?" He says "I think you should wear this" and hands me a little red box. At that moment, my stomach was instantly filled with butterflies! I open up the box and there sat the most perfect, round diamond solitaire. First thing I notice is that it was the band I had picked out months ago. Then I notice the super sparkly round diamond. It was the most beautiful, sparkly diamond I had every seen. I didn't even care at that point that it wasn't a princess cut. Later he told me his reasoning for picking out the diamond he did and I was very happy and still am.

He never got down on one knee and I don't think he even said will you marry me. I think I just put the ring on and started hugging and kissing him to death. And of course, both of us being sappy and emotional, we both started crying. It was a sweet, silly, and intimate moment that was perfectly us. We called my dad on our way to his parents. He was happy-he cried and didn't care that K didn't ask his permission. Of course once we got to his parents, his mom cried once we showed her. Funny thing was, she was distracted with the dog at first and didn't notice our goofy smiles or the ring until I showed her!

He planned to have the ring by New Years Eve but because of the holidays, it got delayed. Then he wanted it for our anniversy but due to bad weather, it got delayed again. Finally towards the end of January he got the ring. He had it almost two weeks before he gave it to me because he was waiting for the right moment. The only people that knew he had it were the girls at the insurance agency because he took it in to get insured. He told me he almost propoesed on Super Bowl Sunday but he started drinking and decided it wouldn't be a good idea to be drunk when he proposed. My fiance is a smart man!