- 1 year ago
Well that story isn’t too eventful really, it was the 23rd of February 2009, I remember because it was the first day of University, well not per say because school had started earlier and my uncle passed on, so that meant I had to go back home. So when I came back that’s when I met him. At that time I was seeing someone else, a vey serious relationship might I add so I wasn’t concerned really. Oh FYI we go to uni in Bulawayo, a city in Zimbabwe, he is from there I am from Harare
I walked in and went to the back of the class, Ray says I was wearing white top and black pants and had long braids, I remember the long braids part cause really I had long braids pretty much through my entire uni life, lol. My compass was dead and so I asked my friend to fix it and he said go talk to that coloured guy with the locks apparently he can fix just about everything, his name is Raymond. I walked up to him and said ‘hi Raymond, I’m Nyasha I heard you can fix just about anything and that’s it folks we have been friends ever since. I must say I was quite taken aback by his appearance, I will not say the cliché I thought he was handsome, not saying that he isn’t but I was more fascinated by what race exactly he was, the locks almost made him look like a mixed black red Indian, I almost blurted out, ‘what are you?’ Turns out he is half black, half coloured, making him supposedly 75% black and 25% white, lol. But no Indian blood there.
Immediately after that time he also got into a relationship, we became study buddies so to speak if you call what we do in Architecture studyingJ Unfortunately he was the first one to become single about 9 months later. By then we were really good friends and talked a lot especially about God, we were both fairly fresh born again Christians at the time and it was really great to have a friend in the same boat.
Trouble in my little supposed paradise came a few months from there, my boyfriend and I were quickly becoming like oil and water, we were so different and he really wasn’t too keen on my new God enthusiasm it didn’t sit well with our relationship especially the fact that I was now attending a Pentecostal church. Wait a minute gone a bit too far about 3 months after I met Ray I had a series of dreams where he would stand on the other side of something like a river and he would say ‘come on, cross over, I will help you’. Then I would wake up. It was really weird because it would be the same storyline just a different setting.
So anyway Mr ex boyfriend pulled the plug on our very dead and destructive relationship. Well life does go on. When I think of it now Ray had a glimmer on his face when I told him the news. A disclaimer though, throughout our friendship, Ray never so much as hinted that he was interested in me, hell we never even had eye contact for more than 2 seconds later alone shake hands or hug, we would just talk! So you can imagine my surprise when people started whispering that there was more to us than meets the eye. He wasn’t sure, I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. Finally after what seemed like ages he came out with it… Because we have the same beliefs, we don’t believe in dating but courtship with a purpose. For us it was never about trial and error. We had been friends for over a year, and knew each other well enough to know if it would work or not. We thought transition from just friends to more than friends was going to be difficult, Ha what a laugh, we slid into our new life with ease. We knew it on that day 28 April 2010, that a few years from now we will be where we are today, betrothed. On that day after he said his fancy words and I said okay, we got down on our knees and prayed a blessing over our relationship. Setting God as our foundation.
All sounds so perfect doesn’t it, well not really, after 3 years of my best friend courting me it has been a journey and we are still getting started. I must say though we have it better than most, we have never had a fight that lasts more than a few minutes and we have never exchanged mean words. Ray and I are best friends before anything else, when our relationship went through a storm we weren’t shaken because of our faith. We have had some challenges and had to compromise and sacrifice a lot but it has all been worth it. I am very happy and wouldn’t ask for a better husband to be than the one I have, he is perfect to me because he is made perfect in God’s loveJ